I'm sort of stalled

I've found that a few ppl have had problems getting/staying in touch with their partners. I heard from one person who let her partner know she's sent off the package, and has heard nothing back in over 2 wks.

I was thinking that that is so tacky, to let someone send you a gift, then drop off the face of the earth. Then I realized that some ppl have great difficulty facing up to problems, and prefer to bury their heads. It's an embarassment issue, I think.

I, for instance, am having a lot of trouble getting my project done. I got about half way, then stalled. My depression came back with a vengeance, and I was unhappy with what I was creating, but everyone else told me it was beautiful, and I'd put so much work into it already, I just didn't know what to do.

I now had a couple of choices. I could keep my mouth shut, pretend everything was hunky dory, let my partner continue on, etc.. Or, I could write Andy, let her know what was happening, that her gift probably, despite the early start, wouldn't be ready for official holiday gift time.

I'm proud to say that I chose the second course, but I can understand how someone might be too embarassed to do so. Unfortunately, it catches up with you, eventually - the avoidance, I mean.

So, I wrote to Andy, and she responded as I'd suspected she would - that the timing wasn't important, that it was the thought that counted, etc. She even went on to say that if I was totally paralyzed, the item she was making for me would suit her daughter.

Well, of course I told her no way, that gifty was mine, all mine! I was stalled, not stopped, and, if getting it before the end of Dec. wasn't an issue, I should be OK. Eventually, Andy and I will exchange our gifts, and I'm really looking forward to it. In the meanwhile, I've eased up the pressure on myself and am feeling much less stressed by the whole thing. Although, I do recognice the irony of the organizer being one of the ppl having trouble following through!